Beware of spiritual divorce... from routine to emotional detachment

Spiritual divorce begins as a routine between spouses, and without them realizing it, it turns into a state of emotional, psychological, and even physical separation, where the partners meet in the same place without any spiritual connection between them. This happens as a result of waning feelings of love and affection, or under the influence of psychological or material pressures.

Signs of Spiritual Divorce

1. Lack of communication: When the spouses stop telling each other about their daily lives and expressing feelings.
2. Isolation: Each party has their own world, different hobbies and independent destinations, and strange friends with whom they spend most of their time.
3. Waning or cessation of sexual relations: Where there is no desire to attract the partner or be intimate with them.
4. Seeking independence: Each party aims to separate their possessions from the other.
5. Redirecting feelings: The partner withdraws their feelings and attention towards another party, whether within the family, such as their mother or children, or from outside it, such as friends, and these become their priority.
6. Ambiguity: The partners tend to hide details from each other, and each plans away from the other.
7. Constant criticism and trying to prove that the other is wrong.

Solutions for Spiritual Divorce

• Reviving the bonds of dialogue, by searching for ways to create continuous and ongoing communication with the partner, in several topics, calmly and balanced, and employing wisdom and understanding.
• Creating personal space by distracting oneself from neglecting the partner with hobbies, filling the void, and developing oneself can draw them back to you again, because they admire the change or your new personality, and even because they feel threatened.
• Seeking marital counseling, which can be obtained from friends and relatives, but it is best to take it from specialists, because the guidance in dealing is objective and well-studied.

It should be noted that cases of emotional divorce are increasing dramatically around the world, both in the West and among Arabs, and this is a result of the modern lifestyle and increasing freedoms. Continuing in this manner without seeking to create radical and practical solutions may cost societies their social infrastructure, which automatically leads to the spread of dangerous scourges such as marital infidelity and adultery, rebellion and delinquency of children, drugs, and many dangerous social scourges.